BUMPing this beauty of a thread.
I have chosen a slow fade. I honestly haven't contemplated DAing. But I am not afraid to "lose" JW friends as I have never had an issue making friends anywhere.
My fade is more for the sake of my wife who overall has been quite understanding in my change of beliefs. We are a fairly well known and well liked couple. Most people don't know my situation. They just assume things are still grand with me in the WT paradise. My wife is still a fairly solid believer and is active, but kind of does her own thing.
By slow fading, I still get fun weekend getaways with "friends", with whom my wife feels more comfortable presently. I am pretty laid back wherever I am at, regardless of the presence of JWs or not. I just find myself getting more and more annoyed at the silly "spiritual" conversations.
So at this point, slow fading gives me the best of both worlds, and in particular, because I haven't had to be a regular meeting attender to receive the "association" benefits.
Oh, and great thread Black Man, even 11 years later!
CoC